Do you fume when someone crosses your car? Does your blood pressure rocket when your child or spouse refuses to cooperate? Anger can be internal and external. Keeping your temper in check can be challenging. Uncontrolled anger can ruin good things.
4 Tips to Get your anger under control
Remember POLA-GURAI – POst, LAught, GRUdge, I
1. Think before you speak, don’t Post online.
DON’T post it online. It’s easy to say something or post something online that you’ll later regret. Take a deep breath and collect your thoughts before saying/writing/doing anything.
2. Use humor to release tension, Laugh.
Laugh loudly. Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Use humor to help you face what’s making you angry and, possibly, any unrealistic expectations you have for how things should go. Avoid sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse.
3. Don’t hold a Grudge.
Forgive. Injustice is everywhere. You are a better person if you let go. If you allow anger, envy, malice, or other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness.
4. Once you’re calm, express your concerns with I statements.
As soon as you’re thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns clearly and directly without hurting others or trying to control them. Use “I” statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, “I’m upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes” instead of “You never do any housework.”